Posts by BlackSwan of Memphis

And to both you and changeling: I'm sorry your experiences were negative.....that doesn't make every homeschooling experience negative. Have you read and done the research on how active parents are in homeschooling their kids? I know a good number of homeschooling groups in my area, the parents are actively involved in educating their children, in getting them out into the real world so that they are gaining real life experience. More often then not, the people I have seen educating their kids at home, have been excellent at getting them involved with dance classes, computer classes, art classes, music classes. Many of these kids are getting great experience working outside of the home at young ages.

Not every parent sticks their kids in front of a tv all day and tells them to learn.

I'm getting really tired of people judging the entire homeschooling experience and community. What about all the Great examples out there? There are several if you care to look for them.

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dinner time guilt

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i have a family of 4. each of us have very different likes and dislikes.

my husband and youngest daughter are vehemently opposed to tomatos or tomato products.

spaghetti sauce is completely out of the picture.

BlackSwan of Memphis

Journeyon and Restrangled: You know that is a good idea. My biggest problem would be getting Hannah to communicate to us what she wants. My husband, perhaps this is mean....if he doesn't like what I make he makes something else. I'm cool with that. I think you guys are onto something. Journey: I am not a huge fan of vitamins, except for my older daughter, so I really try to have fruit around the house and nuts, string cheese. I keep the frozen veggies in my freezer and Try to hide them. But that's hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What I would LOVE is for someone hint hint to pass along some great kid friendly recipes hint hint. Hmmmm whos a chef around here? MrsJ: Yep, that's me. If I've had a long day and dinner's taking awhile, if one of them wants to snack on cereal or fruit or yogurt, sometimes I'll say ok. So... OUTLAW, you're a chef huh? Hmmmmmmmmmm dressing up the food so it is more appealing is tough. I'm wracking my brain trying to find a way to dress up tomatoes so that Jun might eat it a different way and think, hey this isn't so bad! I AM open for suggestions on how to prepare healthy food so that a child might enjoy it! hint hint hint hint..........

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dinner time guilt

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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i have a family of 4. each of us have very different likes and dislikes.

my husband and youngest daughter are vehemently opposed to tomatos or tomato products.

spaghetti sauce is completely out of the picture.

BlackSwan of Memphis

BLack Swan..You and I have the same views on the family dinner table..It should be a place of enjoyment..My dinner table is a very happy place and my Adult kids still come for dinner...OUTLAW

I'm coming over for dinner! You sound like us...food is not worth eating if it's not enjoyable.

JourneyOn: I am talking about dinner. They eat fruit during the day (my husband doesn't) they eat yogurt for snacks, they eat nuts etc. Dinner is an issue. Because while one won't spaghetti sauce, the other one will. And it's just a pain in the butt to deal with. Why make the other one eat it? I just don't understand that. If my husband made me food that I didn't like I'd say, thanks but uhmmm no. That was nice of you to make it, but you know I don't like it, so I'm not eating it. Why treat kids differently? This teaches them...............................?

To eat what's put in front of them because they don't have a choice.

As I said it's control.

And kids need to feel in control of their life to some extent. I'm not saying let the kid go off and fill up on candy.

I'm saying...what's wrong in finding ways of making food that Everyone Can and Will enjoy? If they hate it, why not let them have a bowl of oatmeal or a grilled cheese? Or etc...I mean, isn't that nutritious?

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dinner time guilt

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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i have a family of 4. each of us have very different likes and dislikes.

my husband and youngest daughter are vehemently opposed to tomatos or tomato products.

spaghetti sauce is completely out of the picture.

BlackSwan of Memphis

wow...

yeah, I was raised similarly. This is what I remember. Sitting at a table with a bowl of my mom's chicken soup which nauseated me. Taking bites of liver and running off to the bathroom to spit it out.

When your kids tell you they don't like something you just make them eat it? Why? Would you do that to yourself? Likely not. Everyone has different tastes and likes and dislikes. Yes it is incredibly difficult to find foods for kids to eat.

But that's what makes us who we are. Forcing kids to eat food they don't like just because our parents did it, does not mean that it's right.

I'm not going to force my kids to eat food just because I don't want to put the effort out to find food they do like. I'm really surprised by the response.

This is what I'm hearing:

It was good enough for me, it's good enough for them.

Ok. That works for others, but I'm not doing that to my kids.

Outlaw: You read my mind sir!

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dinner time guilt

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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i have a family of 4. each of us have very different likes and dislikes.

my husband and youngest daughter are vehemently opposed to tomatos or tomato products.

spaghetti sauce is completely out of the picture.

BlackSwan of Memphis

I have a family of 4. Each of us have very different likes and dislikes. My husband and youngest daughter are vehemently opposed to tomatos or tomato products. I.e. spaghetti sauce is completely out of the picture. My youngest hates mushrooms. Neither of the two kids like spicy foods. My oldest won't eat crunchy foods. She takes the filling out of a taco shell. But my youngest won't eat soft tacos. My husband likes anything that can be turned into sandwiches. I am not a huge fan of sandwiches unless it is in the form of a hamburger. My husband generally doesn't like things creamy, rather prefers crunchy type foods. He is not a vegetable eater period. Nor does he like fruit. The kids will eat a little spinach. The youngest will eat most vegetables with cheese, the oldest doesn't like cheese period, unless it's on pizza, even then she prefers the tomato sauce. I like pasta with homemade sauce or jarred. I can throw together a chicken parmesean and be happy and so would the oldest, but the other two would turn their noses up at it.

I have chicken breasts. A box of pasta roni parmesean something or other with angel hair. Some frozen corn and canned french style green beans.

I just got finished watching a show on some cable channel featuring a perky blonde teaching a busy family how to eat healthy. HA! Those kids actually LIKED these weird looking foods called vegetables.

I'm feeling quite guilty for not putting more effort into this thing called dinner. Because quite frankly, I have all but given up and let Mr Swan take over the whole thing. Which generally results in frozen dinners or frozen fried chicken cooked in the oven with french fries.

anyone else?

heck, does anyone have any suggestions? (and yes I've tried Rachel Ray and no my kids won't eat her stuff.)

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any tea drinkers

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out there?.

i am currently sipping on a green tea.

but am partial to celestial seasonings tension tamer or ginger.. what's yours?.

BlackSwan of Memphis

hortensia, ahh right, sorry bout that. When I was posting I sort of just started thinking of all these medicine-y teas. I am pretty surprised by how much attention this thread has gotten! There are quite a few tea drinkers aren't there? I Do like coffee, but it doesn't work too well with my body if I drink too much of it, so that's why I drink tea. It works better for my bod.

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OK, YOUR FAVORITE FOOD/COOKING SHOWS. Anthony Bourdain...

by Seeker4 in

yep, bourdain's no reservations tops my list of favorites.. why is it that shows on food and cooking, reality or otherwise, kick the ass of just about everything else on tv?

what do you expect with crap like america's got talent?

yeah, maybe it does, but not much of it's getting on that show!.

BlackSwan of Memphis

Pretty obviously I am sure you all know from my avatar - anything with RACHEL RAEY IN

hm something tells me though, you aren't paying attention to the food she's preparing......

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OK, YOUR FAVORITE FOOD/COOKING SHOWS. Anthony Bourdain...

by Seeker4 in

yep, bourdain's no reservations tops my list of favorites.. why is it that shows on food and cooking, reality or otherwise, kick the ass of just about everything else on tv?

what do you expect with crap like america's got talent?

yeah, maybe it does, but not much of it's getting on that show!.

BlackSwan of Memphis

I don't get to watch him much, but yep, Anthony Bordain is really cool. I love watching that guy try new stuff. He did one for, I think, Beirut which I missed and have been trying to catch reruns.

He's the only one I really like in terms of cooking shows.